The Alternative To Cancel Culture

Endless boundaries are being created and as we manoeuvre our new normal, there is endless talk of cancel culture and stepping away as someone doesn’t step up to what or who we want them to be. Someone misses an opportunity, we write them off. A friend starts being uncharacteristically negative and we say ‘they’ve changed’ and block them. Sound familar?

Those who had a particular way of being before the pandemic have now changed due to what they’ve reflected on or, endured during that time. I’m the first to vouch for the fact that we become like the 5 people we spend the most time with. Hence why my friends are a specific breed of human and are aligned with the values I lead my life with.

Factor this in – as we’ve changed throughout the pandemic, so too have our values, who we’ve chosen to be and how we’ve come out the other end. Each friendship, family dynamic and romantic relationship will have felt the impact and more often than not, that’s a good thing.

Curiosity is better than judgment.

When it comes to considering others and how they’ve changed, some ideas to keep in mind and allow to affect you and your relationships are the following:

Just as you’re learning to navigate the new normal, so too are those around you. We are not infallible as humans – actually, more often than not, we are going to make mistakes along our journey. This is a sign that we are trying. When someone in your life, drops the ball, show some grace, express your feelings and be clear on who and what you are about.

Identify your own values. Our values are a guidance system for your decisions, relationships and the path you take on your journey. Knowing what these are allows you recognise when someone or something is out of alignment with who you are.

Forgive what isn’t for you. You can do whatever you want however you can not do everything. This also includes the relationships you would like to have in your life. This can mean that you choose some over others because they make more sense to you and yours. Move forward with grace and take care of yourself.

Understand the why. If there is an action of someone in your life who is out of your own alignment, rather than jumping to conclusions, ask yourself and them ‘why’. You never know what is happening in someone’s life or head. Recognise this and kindly avoid assumptions, they don’t help anybody.

There is an opportunity to understand at every juncture.