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Timing: What I Wish I Knew As A 23 Year Old

You know what they say about time?

Well, many things, actually.

Time flies, Time is of the essence & time waits for no man are all phrases that have been uttered in some blog post or deep meaningful conversation, once or twice. When do these words really resonate and how often do we say them so flippantly that it actually sinks in? On our birthdays? New year’s eve? Or, when we have some time during a Pandemic to over-think on it?

There were messages popping up in my college WhatsApp group this week highlighting that it’s been eleven years since we packed up our cars and headed to our family homes as we vacated our University accommodation for the very last time. That day marked the end of random Tuesday nights in the Lodge, ditching classes during Rag Weeks and cramming for exams over red bulls in the library . It meant that the times of actually having to figure out our next moves could no longer be put on the long finger. We needed to make decisions on the next phase of our lives that hadn’t been pre-planned for us.

With the end of a milestone come reflections and thoughts of whys, whens and what ifs? Certainly as I look back to who was a 23 year old June without a notion of her next move, I realise how clueless I really was and how I didn’t know what was ahead of me.

Firstly, the job I’m doing now has little to do with my studies. During the adventure of my twenties, I ventured into a few different career paths to eventually land on people management. Of course it’s super relevant and I wouldn’t change any of it for the world but certainly, that was a path that came through discovering what I enjoyed and being given opportunities to progress.

An added two continents later, I can safely say that the idea of traveling more has gone the way I’ve wanted and hasn’t stopped there (watch this space).

I have travelled quite a bit more & have grown in more than one way. I’m in a totally different relationship and indeed, have had to reinvent myself two or three times over. When I consider those in my life who were around then, some friendships have stayed strong while others have fizzled out. I’ve needed to say goodbye to one or two people for reasons out of my control and serendipity has re-introduced me to people from UL as we were meandering along random journeys.

There’s none of it that I’d change for the world.

The reasons for posting about this are many. When we look back on time, it can be easy to go into a rabbit hole of thoughts and reflections. That’s a good thing – we need to look at where we’ve come from to set intentions for where we’re headed.

My tips here are plenty.

Journal, journal and journal some more. This means deliberately writing about particular times in our lives, our respective days and what we are grateful for. As we look over our journals, this helps to guide us on how far we’ve come. This article by Jame Clear outlines the impact of journaling to the likes of Oprah Winfrey and Virginia Woolf to their success. Start with just a sentence a day and watch how that adds up to lots of content in the archives.

Make every day count with your most important relationships. It can be easy to take people for granted and not put in the little touches to their days in order to thrive. Remember, it’s better to stay consistent rather than attempt a big gesture once per year. Be present. This video by Simon Sinek is a wonderful reminder that it’s the little things that matter in every relationship.

Regularly check in with yourself on how you’re doing on your path. Life is short and actually asking ‘is this right for me now?‘ goes a long way in guiding you toward what’s meant for you. It won’t always be perfect but acknowledging what isn’t perfect will help you get or stay on the right path.

Here’s some reflections of mine from 2019. So much can change in even a few months – including this Pandemic. Keep moving forward but don’t forget to look back and see how far you’ve come :).

Sorry, that was the Pandemic talking.

Ever have those days you feel like uttering ‘Feck off, Pandemic’?

Thought so.

Thankfully, that’s not today for me. It’s out of my system from last week when I got into a rut of ‘should I be reinventing myself’ or ’embracing my past self?’.

That phase passed with enough chats with my friends and walks in this glorious sunshine.

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This week, I’ll get back to the bizarre balance of getting as much rest as possible while also multiplying my skillset in a bunch of areas that I didn’t even know I wanted to.

Most days, I try to focus on the ”thank you, Pandemic’ mentality. The ‘what have I learned’ & ‘which parts of normal do I want to return to’ one that it seems, a lot of us are grappling with.

I’ve done the banana bread thing, replanted my unidentified living room flowers and added a few bulbs to my endless Dealz supply of plastic pots. Meanwhile, I’m celebrating the fact that I’m super flexible as a result of the yoga sessions, random challenges and downloading fitness apps. Those 21 day meditation challenges have allowed me to find myself a few times over (nice to meet you again, by the way).

You see, the rules are different in the Pandemic. We get to rediscover ourselves while getting lost in endless realms of our past lives. Our brains can’t help but remind us of those old encounters when our Instagram feeds fail to do so. Our old erroneous mistakes and once forgotten chapters resurface and oh my, how they’ve shaped this inevitable reflection time.

 

Meanwhile, being away from all of those who are loved most has re-iterated the fact that yes, we can build a stronger cadence of contact once we are out in the free world again as it’s already being done.

This blog post title is aptly named though. Sometimes when we’re against a wall and such a huge area of our lives is uncontrollable, it can impact our behaviour in a multitude of ways.

While I maintain that indeed we are responsible for how we act and how we consciously manoeuvre our days or interact with those around us, our emotions have the power to inevitably drive this, should we let them. When our emotions get carried away, so too do we and trailing back to calm can be a tricky journey to navigate. The map to this also happens to vary from person to person.

Thankfully, as is the case with everyone around us, we can build in habits that help us to balance our minds and reset ourselves when a rut of uncontrollable reactions tend to surface.

*Building and maintaining a support network who we trust and who lift us up is important. This applies to Pandemic days more-so than our normal lives as we need it. We become like the five people we spend the most time with & that includes Zoom calls and random Tik toks.

*If you must, follow social media that incites positivity. That’s not to say that we only follow those who are being productive and teaching us that we ‘should’ be doing all the things. No. Follow those who inspire you (in whatever way that is) and encourage you and yours to feel good and to do what’s right for you and your mindset. (Feel free to hit me up for some suggestions).

*Do some exercise, please. I’m certain this point has featured in so many of my posts because well, I’ve learned from this myself. Sure, resting is important and please do lots of that. Doing some form of exercise releases endorphins and helps to build you, your body and mind up. Check out Yoga with Adriene, Joe Wicks or Well Fest Ireland this weekend.

*Do some journaling or write something (anything) down.  All those thoughts need to go somewhere. Chat through them or write them down so there is an outlet to make sense of them. I’ve filled a journal in the past month and it’s helped me make sense of so much when I would’ve otherwise felt pent up with ideas and thoughts.

There’s so much more. The main thing is here is well, this is going to be over soon and we will get back to our lives. I’ll keep sharing ideas and tips on moving yourself forward and taking care of yourselves.

Be kind to yourself now and always as you navigate your way through quarantine life. If you don’t feel great, that’s okay. Do what you can with what you have wherever you are.

 

 

Sorry, I forgot to write it down

It’s been a bit of a crazy six months. Excuse the lack of writing and certainly, I’m aware at this stage that I’m a serial procrastinator. I love writing but I haven’t had a clue of what to put on paper. When I did think of something,  I thought “well this is boring” and so, I procrastinated some more.

Cheers for your patience, by the way.

There’s been some change in my life. I’ve changed house, changed relationship status and changed momentum. My values have remained the same while most areas day to day have been varying quite a bit. I know that I love my job, have the best friends in the world and have some fun adventures planned.

Let’s start from the beginning.

Hi, my name is June and I’ve just turned 33. I had always believed I’d have it figured out by now.

Actually, I really don’t.

Here’s what I do know. Essentially, that everything is working out fine. I know what I like and that the majority of my days comprise of beautiful moments surrounded by amazing people. I’ve got hoards of friends, kind people and I’m told, potential. I love what I do, have fun and rarely mope. When I do, I know that it’s only short-lived and going for a run or chatting to a good friend will instantly help. There’s plenty of opportunity, you see – to feel good and to move to the next chapter.

My relived realisation this week is that actually I’ll end up exactly where I’m supposed to and that any worrying has been totally un-necessary. Let’s just say that things have worked out so far and that indeed, they will continue to work out.

Some lessons I’ve learned (in case you’d care to read them) are the following:

*If you’re in a place where you’re not as happy as you know you can be well then it’s time to go back to basics. Ask yourself these three questions:

What do you want?

Where is your passion?

What are your values? (and not how this aligns with where you are).

*Having a difficult conversation can seem like a mountain to you. In fact, once it’s been had, it’s like a weight has been lifted. Truth over harmony means that it’s better to say the truth and be uncomfortable than to allow it to fester and keep the peace.

*It’s okay to be sad and say that you are. I’ve spent quite some time the past few months working on this and allowing myself to admit that the fires going on around me are impacting on my mental health. Smiling and keeping positive is important however showing some vulnerability will allow you to be your authentic self. This authentic -self will always attract real people and situations.

*Remember who’s in your circle and be extra mindful of how they’re there for you. Only spend time with those who make you better and adjust accordingly. They say you become like the 5 people you spend the most time with so start recalibrating.

*Do some exercise at least a couple of days per week. I know it’s been said time and time again but hey, here we are again.

Ever been cooped up in the house for more than a few hours and felt gross? Some exercise will release endorphins and get you moving. Any week I’ve had without adequate amounts of exercise has been less than it could be.

As for the rest of it? You’ll have to check back more regularly as I continue to share and avoid procrastination.