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It’s already June and the number of events that are popping up across social media and filling inboxes is off the charts. There’s the option of webinars, Tedx Events, Facebook lives and Twitter chats galore. Everywhere we look, someone wants to inspire us with their version of success and to be honest, it can be overwhelming both on our minds and bank accounts.
Time is precious so choosing where to go and what to listen to is kind of a big deal. For me, constant research and subscribing to a variety of speakers means I have more options to choose from and some of which I actually buy tickets for. Not sure which ones are for you? I’ve put together a list of three below. Maybe see you at some of them?
- Tedx Talks take place in Dublin on the 17th of June. Inspiring experts in their field, speakers will take to the stage to educate on their topic of choice. As an avid fan of the Ted app and general videos on YouTube (there are thousands), it’s safe to say I’m pretty excited about this one. Already sold out, it’s possible to join the waiting list for this highly anticipated event.
- Pat Divilly will return to Galway with his mindset workshop on the 22nd of July. This is a mixture of lectures on personal development and activities. The focus will be all about reconnecting with your best self, finding more clarity and managing your energy. This is a more concise version of Pat’s past workshops.
- Feeling empowered? Well even if you are already, Women’s Empowerment Summit will take place in October 2017 (later than Summer, indeed) and will comprise of a variety of talks from strong, empowering women. The likes of broadcaster Sile Seoige and best selling author Donna Kennedy will share their stories of success for a day long event in Citywest.
Don’t have the funds? No bother. There are several other options to support you in your personal development this year and thereafter.
*Crack a book open. Seriously, there are so many inspiring options out there that will cost you no more than 20 quid (less if you go for second hand). I’ve got a bunch of recommendations from last year (PM me for many more).
Aside from reading, social media is jam-packed full of inspiring pages, videos and events. Just this week, I stumbled across Heal Within where Linda runs weekly meditation and mindfulness Facebook lives.
Finally, I’ll be sharing weekly tidbits and sources of inspiration across my blog, social media and newsletter. Be sure to sign up so you can get content to your inbox first!
We all have our days where we aren’t feeling ourselves. Our mood isn’t what we’d like or actually needs it to be. We can feel stuck in our heads, foggy and solutions don’t come so easy. Thankfully, there are ways to alter how we’re feeling and contribute to our overall positive mental health.
I’ll never forget the head of my course saying last year that “a thought has ten seconds to hijack your mind”. It sounds rather scary, right? It’s certainly a powerful way of considering the power our thoughts can have over us. On the bright side, this means that you have ten seconds to allow it to pass and move onto a more helpful thought. Of course, we’re all guilty of allowing the thought to fester and unfortunately this means that it can grow and manifest in others ways through actions and emotions. To be honest, there are days where this can happen and it can be tricky to snap out of it.
How about considering how we can impact our mood positively when we’re not feeling it or would rather stay in bed than function in society?
1. Exercise is number one here, not surprisingly. There are numerous types of exercise that one can practise and they will all create endorphins. The simplest idea can be a walk down the road to the local park. Even ten minutes outside will get the blood moving and get you out of your head. Not feeling it? Then still try and go. Often it’s the feeling after exercising that we need to remember to make us move ourselves.
2. Journaling isn’t just something from back in the day. It’s an effective technique that allows for clarity and expansion . For one, it’s is a method of getting thoughts on paper – making sense of them. Or alternatively, jotting down solutions to a challenge or writing down all the positive elements of your day creates energy and motivates.
3. Planning a trip, outing or even a coffee date with someone you care about means that you have something to look forward to. They say that a large element of the excitement of making plans is the planning itself so get planning. Even if you don’t go, it keeps the mind occupied which is sure to get those thoughts to a more positive place.
4.Eat something healthy! They say you are what you eat so how about a trip to the local health store? Getting those healthy vitamins and minerals into you will mean you feel better afterwards and are adding some nourishment to your body.
This past week, I’ve been guilty of snacking on sweets, cookies and donuts – everything that is considered cheat food. Today, I’ve got a fridge full of fruit and vegetables. If you fall off that wagon, get right back on there.
5.Give yourself a break. I don’t have to say it again – but I will. Beating yourself up and being hard on yourself won’t achieve anything except to make you feel worse. Find ways to stop those harsh thoughts, talk it out with someone you love or practice some affirmations. Being kind to your sweet self is so important.
Other ways of minding your mental health include getting lots of sleep, surrounding yourself with the best (plus avoiding toxic people) and seeking out inspiration online and on TV (take this Conor McGregor documentary for example that worked for me).
One year down and the decade that is supposed to be “the best one” is going pretty OK so far. Thirty years on the planet is pretty good going and all those years of me considering aged thirty proper old age were clearly incorrect. I am after all a spring chicken with many more adventures in me and the prime of my life unfolding in front of me as I speak… at least that’s what I tell myself.
Sitting with friends at the weekend, we talked about how when we turned thirty we were told that “all the caring what other people think would stop” and everything would be more relaxed. As perfectly put by my good friend ” you don’t turn a certain age and have a personality transplant”. To put it clearly, it has actually been a more subtle transition as opposed to waking up and feeling majorly different as a thirty something year old. I will say on that note however that there do seem to be some variations on life, conversations and the general priorities of those around us thirty somethings – as much as it pains me to admit it.
Reflecting back, the years of teenage hood were rather crazy. There was the figuring out of myself, gallivanting (in every sense of the word) and general misbehaving when I could get away with it. It was a time where I thought I knew everything but actually didn’t have a clue. Finally, it’s when there was always someone around to educate, inform and generally, give a lecture or two – something which I took majorly for granted and would’ve loved a bit more of in my twenties. Ah yes, my twenties – when all the other figuring out had to happen, co-insided with some travel, finishing of college, starting of a career then a second career and so much more. There was the transition of the hangovers to the now experience of needing a ventilator to feel human again after a night of drink. Meanwhile, my body went from allowing me to eat everything I wanted to needing to break a sweat to burn off even a few calories. As for the rest of it? Well, let’s just say there were plenty of lessons learned.
Moving deeper into thirties territory, the talk of “grown-up stuff” is increasing by the second. So much so that if the topics were to trend on the Twitter of my life, they’d go something like #Mortgage #Babies #Marriage #Money – not necessarily in that particular order however certainly in a similar frequency. Skipping back to those earlier years, I would’ve told you that such topics would send me running for the hills. After all, I just want to blog and drink nice coffees and have holidays in the sun for the most part… or do I?
All this talk can mean that focus shifts and getting trapped in societal expectations becomes so easy. We hear everyone talking about something so we think we want it. We observe people’s “perfect” lives on social media and we feel envy that they’re so far ahead compared to us. All the while, they’re looking at our lives and seeing something they want. Perhaps, it’s freedom, the will to travel or maybe even the single life? The grass is always greener my friends and what’s happening for someone else might not necessarily be what’s right for you. Likewise, when the talking happens, take a step back, stop scrolling and rejig your memory – what is it that you want and how are you going to get there? Keep your eye on whatever it is that means success for you – no matter what age you are.